Preparing for Parenthood as a First-Time Mother
You’re about to begin the most rewarding chapter of your new life, one filled with happiness, discovery, and fulfillment of your greatest purpose in life: being a mother. There’s no denying the excitement that grows as the big day approaches, but it may be mixed with anxiety as you know raising a child is hard work. You’ve heard the stories of waking up in the middle of the night to soothe a sobbing infant or change a dirty diaper. However, a little preparation will make it a whole lot easier, and you’ll be able to enjoy parenthood rather than just get through it.
Be Mentally Fit
Delving into your past may provide answers to some of your most pressing questions. According to Psychology Today, pregnancy stirs up memories about your own childhood and how you were raised. Dealing with those issues can help you identify what you want to do differently as a parent to better provide for your child, both physically and emotionally.
As for the present, identify the biggest sources of stress in your life now and do your best to eliminate them. If it’s finances that keep you awake at night, examine your expenses and come up with a new family budget that provides enough for you and the baby, as well as a little extra to deal with any emergencies that might arise.
Take Some “Me” Time
Of course, it’s always important to have some fun, and self-care should be a priority. Why not get out of the house and head to some of your favorite hangouts, such as the mall, the park, or the local cafe? Yes, it’s a great way to unwind, and you’ll also see which places are baby-friendly and stroller accessible. Bring your friends along for the jaunt and make a day of it.
While you’re enjoying the simple pleasure of life, treat yourself to a warm bath or a massage. These are quick ways to relieve stress that come in handy when you don’t have much time, and as child-rearing website Mother & Baby explains, “Taking care of yourself is as important as taking care of your baby, and will help you to adapt to motherhood.”
Find a Helping Hand
A huge part of motherhood is multi-tasking. You’ve got to juggle feeding, changing diapers, and cleaning up little messes with all of your everyday chores like washing the dishes and doing laundry. No matter how independent you are, you’ll need a helping hand, so look for it now while you’ve got the time.
What kind of help? Let’s start with the housework. Paying someone to come in once a month — or even more often — is a worthwhile way to spend your money if it means more time with your newborn. It will also save you stress. And as much as your four-legged friend likes to take a trot around the neighborhood with you, they can get used to a dog walker if necessary.
Meet Other Moms
You’re not alone in this. Reach out to your friends and family who have already been where you are going. They’ll be able to give you advice and support when you need it. Another option is to check out meet-ups for pregnant women in your area, and there’s a myriad of support groups online that provide valuable social interaction in addition to tips on childcare when you can’t leave the house.
Remember all the fun you’re going to have and all the things you have to teach to your little bundle of joy as they discover the world around them. And as for all the little hassles, you can meet them head-on thanks to all the homework you’ve done. You’ve got this.
Written by Alexis Hall Click here for Alexis’s site
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